Because it’s not usually deemed socially acceptable to post ‘feeling sad’, ‘feeling insecure’ etc on social networks, Facebook and Twitter’s near-exclusive-positivity can lead to a spiral of bleh:
1. It looks like everyone else is happier than you, because everyone’s only posting about being happy.
2. You feel bad for not feeling happy like everyone else seems to be.
3. Because you’re unhappy, you don’t feel like you can post.
4. Your inability to post leaves you a bit isolated too.
5. You could always talk to a friend, but you feel like there’s only so many times they will listen to ‘I’m feeling sad and I don’t know why’ etc.
6. More isolation.
7. More sadness.
8. “Did I really get this sad just from looking at Facebook?”
9. “Well, shit.”
This sucks because it’s not avoidable unless you’re happy ALL THE TIME (in which case you probably aren’t human). It also sucks because the premise of everyone being happy is also a lie.
There are loads of other people on your friends list who are feeling sad too, but they’re also not posting about how they feel. A large proportion of the people who ARE posting happy things, too, will just be trying to act happier than they are because it’s more socially acceptable.
The end result is on social networks you only ever get at most half the picture, and it’s a skewed half. In real life people get sad. A lot. And it sucks that social networks don’t reflect that at all.
So this is me, giving you permission to post about it on Facebook and Twitter whenever you’re feeling sad.
It’s not attention seeking, it’s accurately portraying your current feelings on a platform intended to do that, to people who have expressly opted in to receiving exactly those updates on your life.
And you know what? Your ‘feeling sad’ post might reach other people feeling sad, and they might internally give themselves permission to feel sad and talk about feeling sad.